DO NOT LET ANYONE RUSH YOU WITH THEIR TIMELINES

DO NOT LET ANYONE RUSH YOU WITH THEIR TIMELINES

There are people I know who never went to the university but found what they love at age 18. I know people who graduated at age 21 and didn’t get a job up until age 27. And then people who graduated late at 25 and they found job immediately. I know people who found a job straight out of the university and are making decent money but they are not happy with what they do. I Know people who took gap years and found their purpose. It took me 7 years after graduation to find my purpose. All I did after graduation was submitting CVs to companies because I felt that was the right thing to do just because others were doing it.

I know people who were so certain about what they were going to do at 17, but changed their mind at age 28.  I know people who have children but are single and I know people who are married but had to wait 8-10 years to have children. I know people in relationships who love someone else. I know people who love each other but are not together. Life stories goes on.



So my point exactly is everything in life happens according to our time, our clock. You may look at some of your friends and family members and think that they are ahead of you or perhaps some of them you feel are behind, but everything happens at their own pace. Do not compete with people. Your only competition is you. People have their own time and clock and so do you. Be patient.



Jack Ma started Alibaba when he was 35. Ortega launched Zara when he was 39. At age 25, Mark Cuban was a bartender at in Dallas. It took J.K.Rowling up until 32 to be published for Harry Potter after being rejected by 12 publishers. Morgan Freeman got his break at 52.  Steve Carell only got his break after 40 years old. Richard Branson established Virgin at 34.



Getting your degree after 30 is still an achievement. Not being married at 34 but still happy is beautiful. Starting a family after 36 is still possible. And buying a house after 40 is still awesome. DO NOT LET ANYONE RUSH YOU with their timelines. Because as Einstein said






















And this is the most important thing, I want you to be able to create something meaningful, purposeful, fulfilling lives for yourselves. And learn how to use that to make a difference and an impact in the lives of others. That to me will be true success.

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STOP CRUSHING RATHER BUILD YOUR CHILD'S PERSONALITY

STOP CRUSHING RATHER BUILD YOUR CHILD'S PERSONALITY

Welcome to my blog. I think this is the first time am saying ‘welcome’ lol. Yeah! I know. Thanks to my amazing daughter —Michelle for inspiring this write-up. So, Michelle said to me “mummy, I need to finish up my home work fast so I can prepare my speech for Friday talk in my school.” What? I was shocked to my bone marrow. A 5-year-old? Prepare a speech all by herself with so much confidence? Saying I was flabbergasted is an understatement. I pushed further to find out the details of this “talk”. She made me understand every Friday each pupil is called up to teach/explain a particular topic that has been taught that week to everyone. Bravo! This exercise will help build the kids personality both now and in future.



This took me back memory lane, I decided to whittle a topic from this. Growing up as a child I was told I had a “shovel teeth” this immediately exterminated my self-confidence. To the extent I could not laugh out loud like I am now. When I reported this to my parents then, they laughed and never took me serious unknowing to them this was affecting me socially and even academically.


Parenting is no easy job. And the most significant — yet tough part of parenting is learning to talk to your child. Children take everything literally and the way you talk to them goes a long way in building their personality.

As a parent, nonetheless, while in the middle of juggling tasks, you might end up reacting to your child, at times even speaking out unpremeditated words.

Unfortunately, a child’s mind is not developed enough to understand that these were unintentional and as a result, it cripples their little minds.

And from all the experiences, one thing is sure — the only way we can avoid this from happening is, by carefully watching what we speak to and in front of our children.


Refrain from saying to your child.

1. Avoid negative words

Never feed your child with negative thoughts, it kills his/her self-esteem. Kids are innocent and believe in goodness. Always tell them to be good, happy, and positive.

Explain to them that some words or actions are bad and might hurt or harm somebody. But don’t tell them that it makes them a bad boy/girl. Teach them what is right and wrong, and to value good things over bad.

2. Stop comparing

Never compare your children with someone else or with their siblings. It makes them jealous. They will feel left out. It drives the feeling of failure in your kids and develops dislike between siblings.

3. A straight ‘NO’

A straight ‘no’ is rather too strict for your little prince/princess.

If kids hear ‘no’ all the time, they lose confidence and faith in their parents. If you don’t agree of your child’s action, try giving options.

For example, instead of saying “No noise,” try “reduce your noise, please.”

4. NEVER discourage your child

Imagine me tell my daughter you are still too small to deliver a speech… this will automatically reduce her self-confidence. Never shake your child’s self-confidence.

There will be times when children would want to do something that you know they won’t be able to do. Just remember to give them a chance as long as it doesn’t harm them.

When my son thinks he can wash the dishes, instead of ‘you can’t do it,’ I tell him, ‘try if you can do it or I will help you,’.  The best alternative, however, is ‘Let’s do it together!’

Kids learn through trial and error. On the other hand, if you’ve made them afraid to try. they’ll never try anything new.

5. ‘Don’t talk to me’

Never ban the channel of communication between you and your child.

Never ask children to stop talking or arguing. Let them question and share their opinion freely. Rather talk to them if you want them to stick to your advice.

Tell them what they are supposed to do and why it’s important.

Convince them with your words, tone, and expressions. Yes, keep talking and listening till they buy your point.

When my child doesn’t buy my point, instead of asking him not to argue, I make a sad face and say ‘Okay, do whatever you like, but I am upset.’

This may start the conversation again and you have a chance to bargain or win the argument. Try arriving on a win-win situation.

6. ‘Girls/Boys don’t do that’

A child is a child, so let him/her be. Don’t create gender-biased rules. Don’t stop them from exploring things they may be curious about or good at.

When my son was two years old, I bought him a kitchen set. Who said boys shouldn’t cook?

7. ‘Leave me alone!’

You are everything to your kid. Never say you will leave him/her alone, or demand to be left alone.

Never say things that will hurt children to an extent that they feel they aren’t loved or wanted.

It’s a big no-no even if you feel like pulling out your hair, or just want to be alone.

Talk of kids teaching us patience? Yeah!

8. ‘No one wants a kid like you’

A ‘problem child’ doesn’t exist by its own, right? We are the ones to blame if kids become problematic. They are a reflection of the parents.

 As a parent, it’s our responsibility to make them happy, secure, and confident to face the world

Different Ways To Make Money

Different Ways To Make Money

In any economic system the risks are the same. It's unmanageable for the average individual to make ends meet. Even those who are employed with good wages find it difficult. A few who have income are afraid to spend in an unsound economy and those without are attempting to come up with ways to gain extra cash.
 
Im going to supply you plenty of opportunities to consider in order to place yourself in a more beneficial financial position by working for yourself. This places you in control without being forced to depend upon outside sources dictating what you can and cant do financially. Most of the time, when one is pondering going into business for themselves, they're disheartened because of lack of start up capital.
 
You'll be surprised to discover that a lot of the opportunities here don't have any start up expenses, and those that do are really little. It puts you on a path to being debt free.
 
 
Different Ways To Make Money

 
1) Earnings: The 1st is by working a job where you're experienced and you get paid by an employer to do that job.
 
2) Self employed: The 2nd way of earning revenue is by doing freelance or contract work.
 
3) Business person: The 3rd way to make income is to invest in a small business that you are able to call your own.
 
A skilled job is hard to come by these days and is even harder if you dont have the experience and training to back the skills you have gained. Seeking work may be frustrating and making money is decidedly one thing that every one wants to do.
 
In a skilled job you needed to understand the ins and outs of your trade or line of work. So, if you're a mechanic you need to comprehend how all types of vehicles work. If you don't know how to work on all types of vehicles in your field, it may greatly reduce your chances of work.
 
Many skilled workers who cant find work normally go to an agency where they become part time workers and work for the agency.  Freelancing is a different good option. There are sites all over the net that offer ways for you to discover freelancing jobs.
 
You are able to do freelancing on just about any type of work you are able to think of. There's certainty a free lancing job available in every area. You simply need to know where to go to find the info for it. There are a lot of ways to go about owning a business. You just need to discover what suits your taste and your budget more.
 
For a business owner the 1st choice you'd have is to be the sole owner. You are able to choose to have an online business in any field of your choice likewise. This means that you control everything through the net from a site controlled by your home computer. Making income is hard in this tough economy today and having just one form of revenue isn't getting individuals out of debt.
 
Working on the net to make income in any sort of field you want is always a beneficial choice because the net will always be there. Just remember that you get out what you put into it. If you dont put that much effort in it then you wont see the return on your investment and time.

For more read my book PASSION BEFORE PROFIT

Whatever you do, do quick

Whatever you do, do quick. Don't ever hold back or be ashamed of who you are. Don't be afraid to fail. A lot of people you look up to today failed several times. If they had given up yesterday you won't look up to them today. Don't allow anyone define you. Define yourself by opening up to your creativity. Remember, Rome was not built in a day.

If you don't try new things, you will not know new things. Its not all about knowledge, but putting that knowledge you have got to work. It all depends on you to take your destiny to the next level. Stop aspiring, start inspiring. Leave your comfort zone today. Do that which makes you happy and solve people's problems.

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DONT SPEAK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEM. SPEAK TO YOUR PROBLEM

Ships dont sink because of the water around them. They sink because of the water that gets in them. Dont let whats happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.

We all have challenges but what differentiate us is, while some keep complaining about their problems others speak to the problem. Do you know the more you talk about a problem the more life you give to that problem? Our tongue is so powerful that you become the product of what you say.

There is this lady I knew way back in the university. She had this funny intonation (igbotic accent). She never allowed that challenge to deter her from getting what she wanted. Whenever there was an opportunity to talk this lady comes out first. Her goal was to build that self-confidence without paying attention to the reaction of people. She continued this until we became used to the way she talks. Imagine if she had refused to express herself back then, she would absolutely be drowned in low self-esteem today.
Listen to me, no problem can weigh you down without your permission. Without your approval it cannot be approved. A lot of people are not successful today not because of funds but because of lack of believe. You have to believe in yourself first. Be mindful of what you do or say. Mindfulness embroils paying attention, on purpose, without judgment. Using this approach, you evaluate yourself without judgment, knowing that self-recrimination is not the solution to your problem. On the contrary, according to research, when you judge yourself harshly, you're more likely to compound your problem by worrying. And worrying cannot solve that problem rather it deteriorates it.

Stop judging. Your attention instead should be focused on what that problem is telling you and how that problem can turn around to help you. Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this?" This will help you determine what steps to take next.

Be kind to yourself. You're human. Criticizing yourself, isolating yourself or letting your worries get the best of you won't help you reach your goals. These behaviours only show that you're in need of a little self-compassion. When you start to condemn yourself, challenge your thoughts by asking, "Is what I'm telling myself right now 100 percent true?
Change how you look at your problem. You certainly don't have to love your problem, but you can turn your negative thoughts into more positive ones. You might tell yourself, "This is a test to help me know if my behaviour changes are working for me." Or, "This problem is just a small part of me. It doesn't include my strong passion and desire for my job, my love for my family and friends, my talents and strengths." Here's one more: "The problem is only a passing phase. It doesnt change your self-worth.
It might even help you to write "What can I learn from this?" on a piece of paper and hang it where you can see it every time. Then bravely step forward  and hold your head high, no matter what the problem is.

Conclusion
When you notice yourself making judgments, jot them down and then ask yourself, "What can I learn from this?"
When you face a setback, think before you criticize yourself. What would you say to a friend in a similar position? Now try using that language for yourself.
If feelings of dread start to creep in as you get ready to step on, take a moment to stop and think about the bigger picture of what you're learning when you talk to your problem.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor
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