Quit waiting for people to approve you. Approve yourself. 

You have better relationships when you start validating yourself.

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Garbage in Garbage out. Bad parenting the major cause of Nigeria problems.

It is very good to be a career mum, no disputing that fact as we are aware of the present state of Nigeria economy. It might be difficult for just one person to shoulder all that responsibilities. Just yesterday on my way to church, I saw three boys on uniform obviously they were on their way to school. In their hand was a mobile stereo speaker playing music out loud while walking down a busy road with unbuttoned uniform, sagged trousers and a comb on their hair. What??? Are these Nigeria future leaders? Garbage-In-Garbage-Out.  Proverbs 22:6 Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. The result of various actions of our parents towards their children ultimately become the product of the society we live in. For us to save our society, parents/guardians need to take their responsibility which in this case is parenting VERY serious.

Parenting children demands ongoing efforts to protect, teach, encourage and set behavioural limits. Parenting can be very challenging and even frustrating. Some parents give in to the frustration and resort to abusive parenting tactic. I was telling someone the other day that we all as parents really need wisdom to direct our kids the right way as we are not perfect either. You cant imagine the suffering some people go through everyday just to feed. You see an old woman who is supposed to be reaping the fruit of her labour hawking on the street selling peanuts just to put food in her stomach. Will you blame it on the country? Not really. How can you give birth to 10 children when you hardly have enough to feed on? How will you survive?
The truth is, Nigeria is like a baby in a bad hand. Nigeria is a good country simply in bad hands. And this majorly is as a result of bad parenting. I met a shoe repairer the other day who bragged about having 8 kids and still planning to make them 12. I asked him "oga, how you go train them?" Can you guess his response...? He said, he gives them out to people who need but dont have. I was so disappointed. I went to primary school in this country at a time when If your parent ever told you your teacher complained about you, you would feel like running away. These days, the teachers ask for bribe and the Nigerian parents go to schools and beat up teachers.  Something has gone awfully wrong. Quality education is now a matter of money and position. In fact, it now seems like if you dont have a lot of money, your children cannot make it in life.

What am I trying to say? We should bring up our kids the right way because they are the future of this great country. We all need to work together to make Nigeria work again by teaching our children to be responsible. If there are no jobs teach them to create one. you dont need to blame the country for your misfortune. some parents are even too busy to interact with their children and supervise their activities; they rarely intervene or become involved in a child's life, failing to provide guidance. This brings me to the 4 styles of parenting: Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, not involved. All these will be discussed in my book soon.

In summary, lets aim to control our children's behaviour through continuous direction. But as parents let us also maintain high behavioural expectations. Let us be sensitive to our child's point of view and temperament, lets have that patient to explain why certain rules are important rather than citing our authority as the reason why children should obey. By giving in-depth explanation, we will typically produce independent, confident children who are well-adjusted, creative and cooperative. And this we really need to take our country away from bad hands.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor
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Be PRODUCTIVE

ME 3YEARS AGO

Telemundo 💯
Zeeworld💯
Yoruba movie💯
Bad Energy💯
Reading❌
Writing❌
Research❌
Productivity ❌
Result❓/💯🙆🏽‍♀️🥴

ME NOW😍
Time wasters❌❌❌
Productivity💯💯💯
Result💯/💯👍🏽

What task are you spending the most of your time on? Be in competition with yourself. Always try to beat the person you were the day before. Work every single day to be a highly productive individual.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor

PASSION BEFORE PROFIT. Be ambitious NOT desperate

From: Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor It is no news too many people these days are feeling lost, an have that feeling something is missing in their life. They feel like they want to make a more important difference in the world, but don't know where to begin. Alot of us walk through our lives, feeling numb and desperate for a deeper connection but don't know how to get it. So many people are searching for their passion and purpose in life, but suffer tremendous inner turmoil while they do it. They continue to work at a job that they hate and continue down a path that doesn't make them happy. Unfortunately, we are so focused on the careers that we dislike because of the profit, that our passions is getting pushed aside and forgotten about. Are You Doing What You Love? Here are some signs that you aren't doing what you love in life. You always put profit first, before your passion. You focus too much on your failures and put yourself down. You aren’t enjoying yourself and not living a fulfilling life. You aren’t happy with your life’s choices. You’re too afraid to take risks. You don’t wake up excited about your life. If any of these signs resonate with you, then it means that you aren't living a passion-filled life. Fortunately, I’ve compiled a straight to the point guide that will show you how to follow your passion before profit and finally do the work that you love to do. Let me introduce you to... PASSION BEFORE PROFIT BE Ambitious NOT Desperate Here's exactly what you'll get inside the course:
 
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HOW DO YOU KNOW IF A PERSON LOVES YOU?

This is a personal question. Everyone have their one unique definition of love. Mine centers alot on Communication. Some might see communication as choking. Not just the physical kind or the hearts and flowers and candy kind. Not the I love you as long as you remain good type of love. It takes time to know if someone really loves you, not forever though but not in weeks or even few months either. Its takes time. It’s not about just saying it but acting it too. It’s not just having the ability to say it but also showing what you really feel. Love is freedom. It  is not judgmental, or controlling. Love is clear water the person does not have any hidden agenda. Love is acceptance on all levels. You don’t have to lose weight or dress a certain way in order to be loved. You choose to lose weight because you want to please yourself and the person you love.

Communication is sine qua non to love. My opinion though. A lot of marriages crumble today because of lack of communication and third party interference. This is particularly true in the country where I come from. Couples choose what they discuss with their spouse so they won't be labeled an "immoral spouse". Most marriages fail not because of money or infidelity, it’s the inability or being afraid to say what you truly feel and fearing the person will abandon you or not think of you the same.
Apart from communication which I see as key, when someone really loves you, their feelings for you will never change no matter how many other people they meet. True love comes naturally.
It is not all about " I love you", you can tell by the way they treat you.
When someone really loves you, time or distance will not be a barrier. They will always find a way to be with you.

When someone really loves you, they will accept your flaws and appreciate your thoughts. Even your mistakes will never change their feelings. Although the mind  gets angry but the heart still cares.
When someone really loves you, you can never be an option to them
When someone really loves you, they make you see and think of love as something sweet. They don't make you think love is hard and painful.
When someone really loves you, they would still find one reason to stay even if there was million reasons to leave.
When someone really loves you, they don't make you fight for their attention constantly.
When someone really loves you, they will make you feel safe, comfortable and free to be yourself.
When someone really loves you, they will protect you and will not want to lose you.
When someone really loves you, they will do real efforts to be with you. Action they say speaks louder than words.
When someone really loves you, they see the imperfect you, see what a mess you can be, how hard you're to handle, but still wants you.
When someone really loves you, they will sometimes make you mad but most times make you happy.
When someone really loves you, your joy is their joy. They will be happy in your happiness.
When someone really loves you, they will be more excited than you on your special day especially on your birthday.
When someone really loves, they will always be there for you.
Most importantly,True love must be mutual to be true!
A big thank you to my hubby for this inspiration. For in him I see all these virtues of true love. One of the rare gems who are not so particular about the out ward beauty of a woman but the inward beauty. May our love continue to blossom Ifunanyam. You are indeed one of a kind.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor

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ONLINE WORK IDEAS FOR STAY AT HOME MOM

ONLINE WORK IDEAS FOR STAY AT HOME MOM

The unemployment rate in Nigeria is quite frightening, and the rate is increasing by the day. Since there are no jobs out there the best you can do for your self is create one and probably expand to employ more people to work with you. Thus, you are contributing your own quota to the development of the country.
Let me tell you a very short story on how I started my businesses. I started job hunting right from my NYSC service years. I applied and attended more than a few job interviews but non clicked until I got one marketing job from an insurance company. The job was commission based. Nobody cared about your transportation fees and other miscellaneous. I had to quit the job. I continued my job search. Sequel to my numerous CV submissions, i got responses from some companies and was scheduled for interview(s) but most of the interviews are always on a week day and almost same time I pick my kids up from school. Whenever I asked for a reschedule, it will not be granted because they feel they are doing me a favour.
Busy moms who want to stay home to raise their children, but also want to contribute to the family income, have many choices for building a flexible home-based career. I am talking from experience. If you're a mom wanting to work at home, then think through these listed internet-based home business ideas.

Online Service
The amount of services you can offer from your own home is limitless. Evaluate your personal and professional talents and interests to find out if any can be turned into a service that you can provide virtually. Some service ideas include writing, editing, and proofreading, graphic design and more. You can even take duties you did while working for a company and turn it into a home business. If you were a marketer, you can create advert for companies and get paid.

Sell Physical Products Online
I have an online business where I sell everything fashion both at wholesale and retail prices. If you ever had the dream of opening a retail store, that doesn't have to be put on hold because you're a stay-at-home mom. The internet has made it possible to sell products from any location, including your house. You can sell products you make, or buy wholesale items for resale. Getting your store online is easier and more affordable than ever. Building an e-commerce website doesn't require a great deal of expense or coding knowledge anymore. I can provide you with such service for little fee.

Sell Informational Products Online
Every day millions of people go online to find information. In many cases, they're willing to pay for it. You can tap into this by creating information products and selling them online.
Information products come in many methods. You can create an e-book and sell it online. If you're interested in book publishing but aren't sure about writing, you can hire a ghost-writer (ardarrhinspiring@gmail.com) Selling eBooks, in particular, is ideal for the busy mom, because purchase and delivery can be done automatically, saving you the hassle of shipping.

Start a Niche Blog
A blog is a fun and great way to make money from a topic you know and love. This is especially true if many others know and love it as well. While you offer the information for free, there are many options for making money, including Google AdSense and other ad feed programs, that will place ads on your site. If you use them, you can get paid when people click on the ads.
Other money-making options include affiliate products, selling ad space, or selling your own products. The trick to success in  blogging is building traffic through internet marketing. The more targeted traffic you get to your site, the more likely you'll make money.

Market Affiliate products and Services

Marketing affiliate products

 and services is basically getting paid to make referrals to other business. One great aspect of affiliate marketing is that you don't have to sell or deliver products. When your link is used to make a purchase, you can earn a commission or flat rate from the referral.

Think, find, create that which you love doing and turn it into another stream of income. You can always contact me if you need a coach to guide you through.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor
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START BEFORE YOU FEEL READY

It is a good thing to plan, no doubt about that. It is also a good thing to learn, attend mind blowing seminars and training. But of what use are all these plannings and learnings without practice? When will you come out of your shell? When do you think you are ready to take the big plunge? Remember, the people living a passionate life started even though they were scared. They are not aware of what the future held, but they did it anyway damning the consequences and fear of the unknown. Stop hiding under the umbrella of the popular maxim – “he who fails to plan, plan to fail” will you plan forever? Stop planning and start doing.
Just for a moment, think about the kid in the candy store. The child doesn’t think about what the flavours might taste like, if it will be bitter or sweet he just dives in. Adult life is no different, you don’t have to plan all your life getting ready else you will never get started. You feel like something is not right in your life, but the next step alludes you. You are so scared of making mistakes, you want it all to be perfect. You see and admire people living a passionate life, but you don’t know where to start.
I found myself in this exact situation not too long ago. I admired people living a passionate life and all I could do then was ask them questions and never get anything done. I realized i keep procrastinating because i felt i cannot achieve that which i so much desire. Until i took that bold step. Admiring and running after successful people did not help me. You are the only one holding you back.
In 2017, I decided It was time for the next chapter in my life. I knew I could add value to the world, but I doubted myself. Let your thinking come and go. Let life dance through you. See what happens as you grip existence more lightly.

Keys to Living a Passionate Life
Truth
Don’t lie to yourself. Remember, you’re diving into something new. Study your expectations. You will make mistakes. You will feel overwhelmed, unsure and afraid. You won’t know the next step to take. You’ll feel like you’re jumping out of an airplane without a parachute. This is what it’s like to be human. Those thoughts and feelings are to be expected. Be reminded that you are not your feelings or thoughts. You don’t have to change your thoughts. You don’t have to fix your emotions. Let it all be.
Passion
What is your passion? Again, like a kid in a candy store, look at finding your passion as an adventure. There are lots of flavours available. The only way to discover what you like is to start tasting the flavours. this is even more important If you’re fresh out of the university, because you have no idea what to expect from life after graduation. You can’t make predictions either, because you have no basis for those predictions. In fact, none of us can predict the future. All you can do is follow that which makes you happy. You don’t have to try so hard. Do your best with what you have. That’s enough. Don’t be scared of making mistakes. It is a part of this pathway. In fact, it’s what makes life full of flavour.
Resistance
Learn to deal with resistance. Resistance is simply thinking we take seriously. When I write a book, I want it to be faultless. But, fortunately, I am aware I can only do my best and leave the rest. I just aim for a book that is good enough. By doing this, I let myself enjoy what I do. I don’t force myself to do what I can’t do. Instead of wasting energy on worrying and having self-doubt, letting go gives me access to an incredible amount of energy that helps me focus on how I can help. Don’t misinterpret me, I’m human, after all I still worry.  The difference is that I don’t take my worrisome thoughts too seriously. Thoughts like-What if I fail? What if I’m not good enough? So what?  I let them be and I move forward.
4. Enjoyment
Don’t live your life in sadness, depression and fear. You have the ability to enjoy each moment as it comes. I’m not talking about you eliminating fear, sadness, anxiety, depression and even grief. You can even enjoy those “low” states if they are seen as Indicators of your thinking at that moment. Enjoyment is about living with lightness; it is about being present in this very moment. It is not in the future. It is here I can enjoy the ordinary existence of being human.

5. Money
If you’re reading this, you probably want to get paid to do what you love. To achieve this, you have to find the connection between what you love to do, what you are good at and what people are willing to pay for. In order words, you need to create value. It can feel overwhelming. But the first step is to start.
You start with what you have, where you are, and you do your best. That’s it.

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UNDERSTAND THE NEED FOR CHANGE AND WORK TOWARDS ACHIEVING IT

You have to be opened to Change and growth for it to actually happen. It is impossible for the floods of innovation and creativity to move into our very being if we are not ready for it by shutting off every exit point for change. if the seedbed for change is not present, change can not happen. In psychology, our life has to undergo different developmental stages to achieve full maturity. However, there are instances where a person may get hooked at a certain stage, unwilling to progress to the next stage. these disorders are called psychological fixations. It is surprising to see fully grown-up adults who are still so much comfortable at the oral stage of their life. There are mothers who find it difficult to let go of the image of their child as a kid and thus stunt the growth of their child being. There are also grown up adults who find it difficult to let go of their umbilical cord and still manifest strong dependency on their parents. Unless these individuals recognise their need for change and maturity, they will remain in that same stage and will never be able to move to the higher stages of life.
For positive change to take place, the first demand is to realize that there is a need for change. This realization may come to a person as a result of objective self-assessment or evaluation of the different areas of his/her own life. Also, sometimes this realization is as a result of good advice based on another person observation that there is a need for a change in a person’s life. We can also have this realization by allowing ourselves to make a paradigm shift. If we make effort to see things from a different viewpoint, we may be able to see the dark and grey areas of our life, and we may be enthused to change them. This realization will birth the beginning of our growth and advancement and without doubt the beginning of maturity and improvement.
There are many challenges we have to overcome to achieve a significant change in our life. First, there is the inertia—the force which drags us to stay in our existing situation and to avoid the prospect of change. This force is powerful and it is akin to the force of gravity. To get out of this inertia we need another sizeable amount of force. Second, there is the inner struggle such as lack of self-confidence, emotional baggage and our mental programs of fear and phobias.
These inner forces are very strong emotional and mental habits which thwarts us from opening ourselves to the essential changes in our life. To conquer these challenges in our growth, we need to take step to alter our negative subconscious programs. Let me give you a good case in point: many among us fear to speak in front of a crowd. I used to be that way. There was this friend of mine who is very eloquent by nature, yet whenever he is asked to speak in front of a crowd, she would start stammering and shaking. I asked her why she is always naively tongue-tied every time she is asked to speak in front of an anonymous crowd. Her answer is that she always hears an inner voice that says she will be embarrassed if she makes mistake. The prospect of embarrassment is holding her back from making progress in her rhetorical skill.
This inner program, which was perhaps instilled into her subconscious mind, early on in her life, has been so strong and capable of stopping her from harnessing her eloquent skill. It is so powerful enough that she is hampered from achieving something significant using her God-given talent for public speaking. she could overcome this hurdle by developing a strong desire to debunk the old program in her subconscious mind and replacing it with a confident and self-assured belief in her very own self.
We can become mindful of these undesirable mental programs by listening to our self-talk. You may be pondering what self-talk is. It is not the kind of talk psychotic people do—talking to their very own selves. Self-talk is the process of talking to oneself when one is alone. This talk may not be expressed loudly. It is an inner conversation between our subconscious mind and the conscious mind. In the case of the above-mentioned example, the lady has the natural flair for public speaking. Yet, there is an inner voice that tells her that she is not a good speaker. Though her conscious mind recognizes that she got the talent for public speaking, her subconscious mind argues with her conscious mind that she is not a good speaker. So every time she is about to mount on the platform and give a speech, she would get involved in a self-talk in which her subconscious mind would argue that she is truly not a good speaker. This undesirable subconscious program may be so debilitating that many among us will time and again shy away from success because of the instigation of these deleterious programs.
So to set straight these negative programs and lay the ground for change, we need to prepare our inner self by being mindful of these negative inner programs and slowly changing these negative programs with the opposite positive programs. Consciousness of these negative programs can produce an inner desire for change, and the formation of this inner desire for change can be the needed push that can poke a person towards change

WHAT EVENT(S) LED TO YOUR DISCOVERY???

After my NYSC service. I combed Ado-Ekiti, Abuja and Lagos in search of good graduate trainee job but got nothing. I was called for job interviews but was never called back to resume. So, at that point I gave upon job search. I just kept studying and I’ve never stopped. That was in 2013. I couldn’t comprehend what was happening. I was doing the right things but I didn’t know what I was doing. I wasn’t pleased with the fact I had to spend the little money I had on transportation just to attend interviews and at the end I will not be accepted. I wanted to know why. According to my understanding, what was happening to me shouldn’t have happened. I had gone to school; infact I am a graduate of Mass Communication from a reputable university but I had no work experience. I realized that I needed to fix a lot of loopholes and gaps in other to fit in. That was what led me to where I am today. I started studying the laws of the universe and paradigms. If you could give advice to those who are still searching for their purpose in life, what would it be? I would tell them to do what I did. I’ve always had a coach or a mentor and it was always a person who had accomplished what I wanted to accomplish. You don’t necessarily need to meet the person directly, you can read their books, blogs and even follow them on social media. I still remember vividly one evening I was clouded by my thoughts, asking rhetorical questions like “What’s the real secret behind everything?” I didn’t realize my husband was watching me. He just looked at me and said, “You should find out what you love to do and then dedicate your life to it. This was in the year 2019. The problem with most people is they never figured that out.” I got really excited because I knew what I wanted to do; I have always loved expressing myself via writing, why not convert my passion into profit? I made up my mind that’s what I would do. I ultimately ended up as a freelance content creator that I am today, I also have an online store MNAC World where we sell everything fashion. Then I got the benefit of working with reputable individuals and companies too as a freelance writer. Here is a link to some of our publications on amazon. I’ve always had incredible coaches. And I always did exactly what they told me whether I agreed with it or not. I would do it until I discover they are mendacious or it wouldn’t work, but they never lied and it always worked. I realized that our paradigms are what confuses us sometimes. Our paradigms control our judgement; they colour our belief. If you’re getting advice from someone who has demonstrated, by results, that they’ve done what you want to do, even though the advice may seem illogical to you, you’ll probably get to where you want to go. It is very imperative for people to study a little bit every day. It should become a habit, like bathing. Eating and brushing your teeth. Study the mind, the laws of the universe and paradigms. There’s enough information on those subjects to keep a person studying forever. I’ve been doing that and I’ll continue to do it. The rewards have been nothing short of amazing.

MY BELOVETH MOTHER

SHE CALLED ME ABEEBEM; HER NAME WAS EGO ARMY- MY BELOVETH MOTHER Childhood is a time of happy innocence, with so much activity, warmth from your family, and fun and curiosity at all you're learning and experiencing. Yes, my childhood included many of these things: an adoring family, fun activities, sports, arts, crafts, vacations, church, school, friends, birthday parties, mother-daughter gist even though I was barely 9years old. But when my mum died, my world was crushed. It no longer mattered to me how good my life had been. My experience taught me God did not love me. The loss I felt screamed in my ear that God was not good. And the pain I felt in my heart told me things would never, ever be good again. I tried as much as I could to reconcile a good and loving God with the death of my mum. Deep down I wanted to trust and believe that God was loving and all this was just a farce to test my faith. That my mum was somewhere on earth or in heaven, and not buried in the ground. I wanted to believe more than anything, its 23years now and no sign of my mum. Just like yesterday. Within me i resolved that no one would see me cry. If everything else shattered around me, I would remain stable. But I couldnt. My anger was so overwhelming; I could not manage it. I was furious at everyone. God. Why didnt He stop this from happening? My family. Why wasnt I informed about what was happening? My friends. Why do they all have complete families when mine was no more? Didnt they know how lucky they were to still have a mum? Myself. I should have done something to help. I began doing the things my mum used to do like making sure my kid brother was okay. That he had eaten dinner, done his homework. I did laundry. I cleaned. I did all I could to be calm amidst the chaos churning all around me, and within my own soul. I grew more and more bitter. Hmmm! What nine-year-old has to endure these things? Why is my life so different from those around me? Why did this have to happen to me? Will it ever be well? Will I live the rest of my life like this? Will I ever feel happiness again? After my mums death, I concluded that either God wasnt real or He doesnt love me. Since I prayed for my mum to live, and she died. Months turned to decades as I sat in this place of anger, pain, and heart break. And then something unforeseen happened. Being comforted of Gods love, His mercy, His goodness it changed my life. His Gracious provision, His bringing back what I lost, His mending my broken heart, these are all evidences that He is who He says He is Ekwueme. That He can do what He has promised. Hes so much greater than our thoughts. Hes so much deeper than our mouths can say. He loves in such a way that no other love can come close. He blesses even more than we can ask. Hes a restorer of the broken. youre still so young and you experienced a great loss with so much life ahead of you. You often wonder how you can make it through the rest of your life without the parent who is no longer here. On the outside, you are calm. You keep a smile and hold your head up high. You meet new people and want to tell them your story, maybe they will understand. Every day is a good day until a memory strikes you like it did to me today. You could be having a normal day until something triggers your memory. It could be a song. It could be a picture. It could be a moment. You close your eyes, take a deep breath, and remember the memory. Because that is all you have now, memories. Sometimes, tears roll down your face. And then those tiny tears can turn into a few minutes of sobbing. You wonder if it will ever get easier. Because you heard that it does get easier. It wont be so sad. It wont be so bad. It gets better. Someday People have told you that the memories wont always make you feel so sad. One day, it will make you smile instead of cry. Thus far, you still experience the heartbreak and the daily reminder that your parent is no longer here on Earth. And it just hits you gbam! it could be you may want to share some wonderful news like youre pregnant, you bought a house or you just put to bed. But you cant. You feel sadness because they arent here to see it, talk about it and to live it with you. This pained me even more NO ONE walk across the graduation stage with me or to hold their grandbabies. You try as much as you can to live your best life, because people keep telling you that is what they would want. but this is so hard. When youre young and lose a parent, its a loss like no other. Its not like losing a grandparent that lived a long and beautiful life. Its an unfair loss. Its a loss that leaves you doubting life, doubting things that you could have, should have, should have done. I could have helped. You now, unfortunately, are a member of an unspoken club. No one to pour out your heart to except God Almighty. It never gets easier. It may be one year; it may be ten years; it can be twenty years. Its still hard. It is perfectly alright, to just cry. You can still grieve; it doesnt have to be a fresh loss; you can grieve for as long as you want. That leaves me with one last thought, you out there who loss a parent at very tender age, Its been almost twenty-three years for me and I am still grieving. Im not crying every day, but I am still grieving in my own way. And thats okay. It doesnt make me weak. It makes me human I hope you find something that repairs that broken piece. So Im closing this letter with an advice, love your parents and take care of them while you can. For you will know their value when you see their empty chair. They are irreplaceable.