Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor's Blog: HOW DO YOU KNOW IF A PERSON LOVES YOU?

This is a personal question. Everyone have their one unique definition of love. Mine centers alot on Communication. Some might see communication as choking. Not just the physical kind or the hearts and flowers and candy kind. Not the I love you as long as you remain good type of love. It takes time to know if someone really loves you, not forever though but not in weeks or even few months either. Its takes time. It’s not about just saying it but acting it too. It’s not just having the ability to say it but also showing what you really feel. Love is freedom. It is not judgmental, or controlling. Love is clear water the person does not have any hidden agenda. Love is acceptance on all levels. You don’t have to lose weight or dress a certain way in order to be loved. You choose to lose weight because you want to please yourself and the person you love.

Communication is sine qua non to love. My opinion though. A lot of marriages crumble today because of lack of communication and third party interference. This is particularly true in the country where I come from. Couples choose what they discuss with their spouse so they won't be labeled an "immoral spouse". Most marriages fail not because of money or infidelity, it’s the inability or being afraid to say what you truly feel and fearing the person will abandon you or not think of you the same.
Apart from communication which I see as key, when someone really loves you, their feelings for you will never change no matter how many other people they meet. True love comes naturally.
It is not all about " I love you", you can tell by the way they treat you.
When someone really loves you, time or distance will not be a barrier. They will always find a way to be with you.

When someone really loves you, they will accept your flaws and appreciate your thoughts. Even your mistakes will never change their feelings. Although the mind gets angry but the heart still cares.
When someone really loves you, you can never be an option to them
When someone really loves you, they make you see and think of love as something sweet. They don't make you think love is hard and painful.
When someone really loves you, they would still find one reason to stay even if there was million reasons to leave.
When someone really loves you, they don't make you fight for their attention constantly.
When someone really loves you, they will make you feel safe, comfortable and free to be yourself.
When someone really loves you, they will protect you and will not want to lose you.
When someone really loves you, they will do real efforts to be with you. Action they say speaks louder than words.
When someone really loves you, they see the imperfect you, see what a mess you can be, how hard you're to handle, but still wants you.
When someone really loves you, they will sometimes make you mad but most times make you happy.
When someone really loves you, your joy is their joy. They will be happy in your happiness.
When someone really loves you, they will be more excited than you on your special day especially on your birthday.
When someone really loves, they will always be there for you.
Most importantly,True love must be mutual to be true!
A big thank you to my hubby for this inspiration. For in him I see all these virtues of true love. One of the rare gems who are not so particular about the out ward beauty of a woman but the inward beauty. May our love continue to blossom Ifunanyam. You are indeed one of a kind.