NO TALENT IS A WASTE

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor

EVERYDAY I am struck with new ideas. So I capture them and then I curate them put them into writing so they don't get lost.

*No talent is a waste*

I discovered recently I love editing pics. So, I decided to turn it into business. Surprisingly, people have started contacting me to either coach them or edit for them😳.wow!

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THE MASTERPIECE

   

                             

From my personal experience, I think children begin their drawing process from the moment they are old enough  to hold a crayon or pencil and put it to paper.  Sometimes, children draw to express emotions, because they don’t know how to express different feelings through words. They express their fears, joys, dreams,  hopes and even nightmares through drawings, and also give you clue about their relationships to other things.

Drawing is another outlet for communication, and children’s artwork represents a view of their personalities and can give us precise information about the young artists.

Although Sometimes drawings are just drawings, with nothing more than a fun playtime showing itself on the page. But sometimes, interpreting children’s drawings means that you discover a deeper layer to what they are thinking and feeling.

However, don’t read too much imeaning nto a child's drawing,  instead allow the child to tell you           

 This is a drawing of I and my hubby drawn by my daughter. The first thing I noticed was the smile and blushes on our faces. At first I wondered why we were both smiling, I asked the young artist and she said because we were both holding a rose flower (which was not really visible by the way)smiles! The flower symbolizes passion, declaration  of love... Hence, the sunshine in our smiles.

The fact that she has drawn numerous body parts and clothing which have their various meanings on us suggests that she has mature visual and motor skills. By looking at our clothing, I see that she recognizes gender differences. The drawing also  we  seem to enjoy doing everyday tasks together. Notice how we're each drawn in a distinctive way -- My hubby has a bowtie on his cloth which I am still trying to decipher if it is a big buba ankara and bowtie,(lol) and myself wearing a simple dress, for instance. This tells me that she's able to think of each of us as an individual with a strong bond who focus on giving love. 

Oh! Did I explain the meaning of the bowtie on my hubby's cloth? According to my daughter, the bowtie symbolizes a 'gentleman' while my dress symbolizes 'simplicity. Then personally, I think My 'big head' in the drawing depicts the imperfect me. 

It was encouraging that she drew us so close together holding one flower with so much joy written all over our faces; this shows she perceived her family as tight-knit despite our imperfections 

Thank you for this masterpiece Michelle Chukwudi Udejiofor and siblings.

Dad&Mum

The EXTRAORDINARY woman. Dare to rewrite the rules

As a woman, you hold an amazing power. If there is one thing that time and history has clearly shown is that women are far from weak. A strong woman isnt defined by her ability to stay tough, cold and emotionless. A strong woman is defined by any woman who perseveres in the darkest of times, who supports other women instead of bringing them down and who finds strength within herself. It breaks my heart to see women compete against each other. That will surely not make you extraordinary. Rather than compete with other women, help yourself grow and help others too. We should not be our own enemies but supporters.

As women, we are born strong. I mean we bleed for multiple days straight once a month, yet, we continue to live our lives normally. At the same time, society has painted us as weak and fragile.
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Live Your Life Don't Live Other People's Life

A woman said to me recently...

"I space my kids 5years apart" and I asked why?

She gave 2reasons

"Because of what people will say"

"My mother spaced her kids 6years apart"

What???

Here's what I want to point out from this short conversation. I absolutely do not have any problem with her spacing. That is her personal decision. I only have issues with her dogmatized belief.

How can your life be dependent on what other people think? 

How can you compare 2020 to probably 1960s. Do you care to find out why your mother took that decision?

Alot of people fail to progress in life because they allow people to have a negative influence over the way they think, feel, or behave. When you give people such power, they take over your life.

Don't give people too much power over your life.

Don't allow someone else's opinion of you to dictate your self-worth

Establish healthy boundaries. You decide who to allow into your life. Avoid people who take up too much of your energy. Don't waste your mental resources on toxic people

Don't change your goals because you were rejected.

Don't invest your time into talking about people that you don't like.

Are you aware you invest every minute you spend thinking about someone you don't like, is 60 more seconds you give that person.

In conclusion, It's impossible to live your best life when you're focused on pleasing people.

Tired? Don't Give up. Keep going after it

Giving up and letting it go should never be an option for you. For the fact you are among the human species speaks volume. That said when you look in to human individuals — life is not that easy. people pass through different challenges every day. and when you face setbacks after setbacks, problem after problem, it can be very difficult to remain optimistic. It gets very tough to remind yourself that you are strong and that you can get through whatever problem you are facing. When life is tough, giving up seems to be the easiest way out. 

But the truth is, giving up should NEVER be an option for you. when you feel like giving up, there is a LOT of untapped inner strength inside of you that you perhaps don’t know about or haven’t realized. Use that untapped strength to your advantage.

There are so many reasons why you should keep going after your dreams even though its somewhat difficult

 Being Alive 

There is only one sure thing in life and that is death. Sometimes I hate talking about death but the bitter truth is… we won’t live forever. We all have our time frame on earth. As long as you are alive you have no excuse to give up. One thing I have learnt over years is you achieve whatever you put your mind to. If you put your mind to it, you can do anything — anything is possible. I know this might sound like a cliché but I find this to be extremely important because it reminds you of the ticking clock that is your life. Every second you spend procrastinating or overthinking or are frozen with fear is a second closer to the inevitable yet only certain thing in life, your death.

A lot of people might disagree and say this is a morbid way to think, but honestly, I disagree because death is the biggest motivator. Understanding that I have limited time always spur me to action and helps me to balance my priorities. Most problems and challenges in life when likened to the ever-looming shadow of death always seem minuscule and is a good reminder to keep going. I CAN continue because I’m alive and I will continue and never giveup.

According to Christopher Reeve, So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable. The only accepted excuse to give up is that you are dead…

Believe in Your Dreams

Believe in yourself even when others don’t.it is also very imperative to disassociate yourself with people who makes you feel lesser of yourself. I have been there. Bad communication corrupts good manners. You have to believe in yourself for others to believe in you. Now let me ask you this pertinent question - Would you give up on your family, your spouse or your children? Then why would you give up on yourself? You and your dreams are worth more than that. Don’t sell yourself short and don’t allow anybody bring you down. If you can dream it, you can achieve it and guess what? your dreams and aspirations are WORTH PURSUING. There have been millions of dreamers even before you imagine if they had given up the world would not have been what it is today.

When Wright brothers tried to make “flight” a reality. People laughed at them, ridiculed them and told them it was an impossible dream. But guess what? They proved the world wrong, and today flight and airplanes are now considered a common means of travel. Now tell me, if they had listened to people discouraging words and gave up on their dreams probably today we would still be taking “ships” across the ocean and to travel from Nigeria to London would have taken you someweeks!

Believe in your dreams, pay no attention to nay Sayers. Everybody cannot encourage you. You have to know what you want and go for it. Never give up on your dreams! Take that bold step today just the way the Wright Brothers did and leave a footprint even when you are long gone.

Langston Hughes will say- Hold fast to your dreams, for without them life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly. 

You Possess Everything You Need

Everything you need to achieve your goal is inside of you already. The truth is, people who are successful are not very much different than you. So stop making excuses for yourself! yes you heard right. You have gotten all that it takes to make your dreams come true.

Be appreciative for your God-given capabilities and strive for success. You have got all that it takes, you have all the tools inside of you to endure and keep going. Do you think great minds like Martin Luther King Jr. or Steve Jobs never dealt with worries or difficulties? They definitely did but they never allowed their fears and anxieties stop them from achieving their dreams and their legacies were built only after they endured, pushed through and they never gave up!

 Don’t Give up to Regret Much Later in Life

Personally, I feel regret is the worst feeling a person can feel. Do what you have to do now and Don’t put yourself in that regret position.  Tony Robbins created a “Rocking Chair Test” which he uses with his clients and utilizes the powerful feeling of regret to motivate and inspire people to push through their anxieties. It goes like this:

Take a moment and imagine yourself at 85 years old. You’re in your rocking chair, reflecting on how you’ve lived. Imagine your life if you did whatever it is that makes you anxious or fearful; maybe it’s changing careers, learning to fly a helicopter or taking a trip somewhere new. How do you feel? What’s your life been like as a result of the decision? – Tony Robbins

Prove It to Yourself and The World That You Can

A lot of people are just there to see you give up. It is better to fail and try again than to fail and GIVEUP. You have to prove to yourself and to the world that you are strong and that you know where you belong and that you can achieve your dreams.

When it comes to life, I want you to always have an “underdog mentality”. As DJ Khaled very notably says on Snapchat “THEY DON” T WANT YOU TO WIN” and this is absolutely true. The “they” in this context are all the successful people in the world who want to hold you back and do NOT want to give you any piece of their pie. You must fight and never give up. Imagine if Steve Jobs gave up and didn’t fight till his dream was achieved and let the “they” of his time win. We wouldn’t have smartphones and and everything else that we today take for granted.

In conclusion, don’t let anything or anyone stop you from your goal. Like I said before true failure isn’t when you fail, but when you fail and give up on your dreams. Know this now, you are capable of achieving what you set your mind to and quitting is only for weak minds.

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LET YOUR SILENCE DO THE TALKING

LET YOUR SILENCE DO THE TALKING

Things were going great today until I was asked to repark my car. My street is a close and the number of cars parked on the street is exasperating as coming out of your compound is most times a thug of war😝.

Now I have this very impatient neighbour who's always in haste whenever he wants to go out.(most Nigerians are guilty of this)

Knowing the situation on ground, I expected him to chill a bit while I drive out...🤷🏽‍♀

But he was following me back to back. I had no space to navigate. I hooted severally this guy did not hear me because his windows are all up. This continued until he hit my car. Hmmm! If na you WETIN u go do???

The only word this guy muttered was "we will sort ourself out when I return"

Hours later, he returned. Guess what?? He never uttered a word about what happened hours ago.

So, I decided to approach him. Guess what he said to me " we both hit each other. You can call the police, I am ready for anything. Don't you ever call me out for something as unimportant as this" what you call damaging my bumper unimportant?

Guess my response after listening to this guy???

ABSOLUTE SILENCE!!!

From his reaction he was shocked,confused,guilty and uncomfortable.

Sometimes let your silence do the talking. I was hurt quite alright but I needed to invest my energy on other productive things.

This lockdown,isolation,quarantine has thought me a whole lot. Oh how i remember the book of Ecclesiastes 2:21 For a person may labor with wisdom, knowledge and skill, and then they must leave all they own to another who has not toiled for it. This too is meaningless and a great misfortune. Thank God I still live, car can always be fixed but the dead cannot be fixed.

We all are strangers here on Earth, never forget this in a hurry.

I repeat sometimes let your silence do the talking 😉

DO THE THINGS YOU CAN DO NOW

Do the things you can do now. Start somewhere. Remember, Time was not built in a day. It takes focus and consistency to achieve your goals. The more you try, the more you learn. Don't be afraid to fail. It's a learning process. An expert today was once a learner. A professor today was once a student. An apprentice today will become a boss tomorrow. It is better to try and fail than not trying at all. Don't give up on your dreams and aspirations. 

I remember vividly when I needed google AdSense to approve my

website for advert. I tried severally but was always rejected. It took me 3years to get the approval of google AdSense on my website. I achievement this because despite the rejections I never gave up. Instead I put in my best. 

Tick says the clock tick! tick! What you have to do, do quick.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor

From Apprentice to Boss. Internet Marketing from the scratch

From Apprentice to Boss

From Apprentice to Boss

This ebook is everything you need to know about internet marketing. It is for complete beginners.

If you don’t know your SEOs from your social media marketing, then you are the right target for this book.

You will learn how to create and grow an online business and how to use internet marketing strategies to drive huge amounts of traffic to your website and sell.

Here's exactly what you'll discover in this course:

How to choose a niche to target. What is a niche and why does it matter?
How to choose a business name.
How to get web hosting for your website.
The power of email marketing and why you should start building an email list.
How to get your emails to stand out and get engagement.
How to get traffic through paid advertising such as Facebook Ads, Google Ads.
A keyword tool you can use to find out how many people are searching for a search term. If you know what people are searching for, you'll gain more traffic to your website!
How to integrate social media to grow your business.
The social media platforms to consider going on.
How to grow your connections on social media channels.
Four ways you can monetize your business.
Growth hacks and advanced strategies to skyrocket your business.
How to use 'influencer marketing' to get a flood of new traffic to your brand and business.
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WILL COVID-19 MAKE OR BREAK YOU???

WILL COVID-19 BREAK OR MAKE YOU

I remember vividly, it was on a Friday on 20th March 2020, it was my daughter’s birthday when the government ordered the closure of all schools in Lagos state. Immediately, I ensured I stock up my food stuffs not necessarily because of Covid-19 but because of my kids who will be at home. On 26th March 2020, the government announced that all “non-essential” shops and community spaces are to be closed with immediate effect for at least 2 weeks and until further advised. This was how the lockdown all started. From 2weeks it was extended to another 2weeks and so it goes on. Now the big question is, will this pandemic break or make you? No doubt, COVID-19 will be causing lots of setbacks stress for especially physical small businesses and the self-employed, and it is more important now than ever to make sure you are taking necessary steps to support your own mental health as well as your means of income. This is the right time to make your business better. “If you want to be happy, make your future happy.” This is the perfect time to balance your orientation towards the future and staying grounded in the present moment.

This is not time to apportion blame. Rather, it is time to invest in yourself and think outside the box. Before the lockdown I started a 3months saving plans which just got matured today 26th April, 2020. I received an interest of 10% on this investment. Imagine if I didn’t take the plunge when I did, or I did not plan ahead I would not have received this benefit today. The rich get richer because they take calculated risk but the poor don’t. it is good to save and there are so many applications out there to help you achieve your savings goals.

 Do you know you can save 100naira every day or even weekly and still receive additional 8-10% interest per annum? Plan Your Future Now Our future is built today, at this very moment. Thinking in that way will help you put your choices, actions, and habits in the right perspective. Feeling too lazy to wash the dishes? Think about your future. you would probably be happy to walk into the clean kitchen the next morning. Isn’t it? At first, it will seem like an herculean task but in future, you will applaud your action. Just liked I was excited receiving my savings and interest today. The seeds you are planting today will sprout for your future. The seeds you are planting today will sprout for your future.

The mess you make today; your future will have to clean. Everything you do now is an investment in the life and happiness of your future. So what do you want for future you? One way to find out: Recognize the little ways you subconsciously build your future self every day. In the past week, think of the tasks you've undertaken to set yourself up for success. Maybe it was starting a genuine investment plan, achieving what you never thought you will achieve.

 Recognize how you're already creating future you—then build on it. I remember vividly when I finished building my website www.mnacworld.com.ng I felt so proud of myself. I felt so fulfilled. Look, sometimes you just need to hoot your own horn to feel positive about yourself and your future. Don't get swamped with negativity when you've come so far. I had to disengage myself from toxic relationships. Remember your accomplishments by writing them down and reviewing them. Try to do this once a week or every night before you head to bed. I do this a lot. It's easy to feel overwhelmed when you think about everything you want to accomplish. But preferably, you want to break your big dream into small steps, so you don't stress yourself out. You can start with savings with cowrywise or piggyinvest using my referral link. Note: I get paid some amount if you successfully start up a plan.

STAY WELL, STAY SAFE, STAY HOME.


ADANNE CHUKWUDI UDEJIOFOR.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor
Blogger, writer, entrepreneur,web designer, digital marketer, coach/mentor and author.

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DO NOT LET ANYONE RUSH YOU WITH THEIR TIMELINES

DO NOT LET ANYONE RUSH YOU WITH THEIR TIMELINES

There are people I know who never went to the university but found what they love at age 18. I know people who graduated at age 21 and didn’t get a job up until age 27. And then people who graduated late at 25 and they found job immediately. I know people who found a job straight out of the university and are making decent money but they are not happy with what they do. I Know people who took gap years and found their purpose. It took me 7 years after graduation to find my purpose. All I did after graduation was submitting CVs to companies because I felt that was the right thing to do just because others were doing it.

I know people who were so certain about what they were going to do at 17, but changed their mind at age 28.  I know people who have children but are single and I know people who are married but had to wait 8-10 years to have children. I know people in relationships who love someone else. I know people who love each other but are not together. Life stories goes on.



So my point exactly is everything in life happens according to our time, our clock. You may look at some of your friends and family members and think that they are ahead of you or perhaps some of them you feel are behind, but everything happens at their own pace. Do not compete with people. Your only competition is you. People have their own time and clock and so do you. Be patient.



Jack Ma started Alibaba when he was 35. Ortega launched Zara when he was 39. At age 25, Mark Cuban was a bartender at in Dallas. It took J.K.Rowling up until 32 to be published for Harry Potter after being rejected by 12 publishers. Morgan Freeman got his break at 52.  Steve Carell only got his break after 40 years old. Richard Branson established Virgin at 34.



Getting your degree after 30 is still an achievement. Not being married at 34 but still happy is beautiful. Starting a family after 36 is still possible. And buying a house after 40 is still awesome. DO NOT LET ANYONE RUSH YOU with their timelines. Because as Einstein said






















And this is the most important thing, I want you to be able to create something meaningful, purposeful, fulfilling lives for yourselves. And learn how to use that to make a difference and an impact in the lives of others. That to me will be true success.

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STOP CRUSHING RATHER BUILD YOUR CHILD'S PERSONALITY

STOP CRUSHING RATHER BUILD YOUR CHILD'S PERSONALITY

Welcome to my blog. I think this is the first time am saying ‘welcome’ lol. Yeah! I know. Thanks to my amazing daughter —Michelle for inspiring this write-up. So, Michelle said to me “mummy, I need to finish up my home work fast so I can prepare my speech for Friday talk in my school.” What? I was shocked to my bone marrow. A 5-year-old? Prepare a speech all by herself with so much confidence? Saying I was flabbergasted is an understatement. I pushed further to find out the details of this “talk”. She made me understand every Friday each pupil is called up to teach/explain a particular topic that has been taught that week to everyone. Bravo! This exercise will help build the kids personality both now and in future.



This took me back memory lane, I decided to whittle a topic from this. Growing up as a child I was told I had a “shovel teeth” this immediately exterminated my self-confidence. To the extent I could not laugh out loud like I am now. When I reported this to my parents then, they laughed and never took me serious unknowing to them this was affecting me socially and even academically.


Parenting is no easy job. And the most significant — yet tough part of parenting is learning to talk to your child. Children take everything literally and the way you talk to them goes a long way in building their personality.

As a parent, nonetheless, while in the middle of juggling tasks, you might end up reacting to your child, at times even speaking out unpremeditated words.

Unfortunately, a child’s mind is not developed enough to understand that these were unintentional and as a result, it cripples their little minds.

And from all the experiences, one thing is sure — the only way we can avoid this from happening is, by carefully watching what we speak to and in front of our children.


Refrain from saying to your child.

1. Avoid negative words

Never feed your child with negative thoughts, it kills his/her self-esteem. Kids are innocent and believe in goodness. Always tell them to be good, happy, and positive.

Explain to them that some words or actions are bad and might hurt or harm somebody. But don’t tell them that it makes them a bad boy/girl. Teach them what is right and wrong, and to value good things over bad.

2. Stop comparing

Never compare your children with someone else or with their siblings. It makes them jealous. They will feel left out. It drives the feeling of failure in your kids and develops dislike between siblings.

3. A straight ‘NO’

A straight ‘no’ is rather too strict for your little prince/princess.

If kids hear ‘no’ all the time, they lose confidence and faith in their parents. If you don’t agree of your child’s action, try giving options.

For example, instead of saying “No noise,” try “reduce your noise, please.”

4. NEVER discourage your child

Imagine me tell my daughter you are still too small to deliver a speech… this will automatically reduce her self-confidence. Never shake your child’s self-confidence.

There will be times when children would want to do something that you know they won’t be able to do. Just remember to give them a chance as long as it doesn’t harm them.

When my son thinks he can wash the dishes, instead of ‘you can’t do it,’ I tell him, ‘try if you can do it or I will help you,’.  The best alternative, however, is ‘Let’s do it together!’

Kids learn through trial and error. On the other hand, if you’ve made them afraid to try. they’ll never try anything new.

5. ‘Don’t talk to me’

Never ban the channel of communication between you and your child.

Never ask children to stop talking or arguing. Let them question and share their opinion freely. Rather talk to them if you want them to stick to your advice.

Tell them what they are supposed to do and why it’s important.

Convince them with your words, tone, and expressions. Yes, keep talking and listening till they buy your point.

When my child doesn’t buy my point, instead of asking him not to argue, I make a sad face and say ‘Okay, do whatever you like, but I am upset.’

This may start the conversation again and you have a chance to bargain or win the argument. Try arriving on a win-win situation.

6. ‘Girls/Boys don’t do that’

A child is a child, so let him/her be. Don’t create gender-biased rules. Don’t stop them from exploring things they may be curious about or good at.

When my son was two years old, I bought him a kitchen set. Who said boys shouldn’t cook?

7. ‘Leave me alone!’

You are everything to your kid. Never say you will leave him/her alone, or demand to be left alone.

Never say things that will hurt children to an extent that they feel they aren’t loved or wanted.

It’s a big no-no even if you feel like pulling out your hair, or just want to be alone.

Talk of kids teaching us patience? Yeah!

8. ‘No one wants a kid like you’

A ‘problem child’ doesn’t exist by its own, right? We are the ones to blame if kids become problematic. They are a reflection of the parents.

 As a parent, it’s our responsibility to make them happy, secure, and confident to face the world

Different Ways To Make Money

Different Ways To Make Money

In any economic system the risks are the same. It's unmanageable for the average individual to make ends meet. Even those who are employed with good wages find it difficult. A few who have income are afraid to spend in an unsound economy and those without are attempting to come up with ways to gain extra cash.
 
Im going to supply you plenty of opportunities to consider in order to place yourself in a more beneficial financial position by working for yourself. This places you in control without being forced to depend upon outside sources dictating what you can and cant do financially. Most of the time, when one is pondering going into business for themselves, they're disheartened because of lack of start up capital.
 
You'll be surprised to discover that a lot of the opportunities here don't have any start up expenses, and those that do are really little. It puts you on a path to being debt free.
 
 
Different Ways To Make Money

 
1) Earnings: The 1st is by working a job where you're experienced and you get paid by an employer to do that job.
 
2) Self employed: The 2nd way of earning revenue is by doing freelance or contract work.
 
3) Business person: The 3rd way to make income is to invest in a small business that you are able to call your own.
 
A skilled job is hard to come by these days and is even harder if you dont have the experience and training to back the skills you have gained. Seeking work may be frustrating and making money is decidedly one thing that every one wants to do.
 
In a skilled job you needed to understand the ins and outs of your trade or line of work. So, if you're a mechanic you need to comprehend how all types of vehicles work. If you don't know how to work on all types of vehicles in your field, it may greatly reduce your chances of work.
 
Many skilled workers who cant find work normally go to an agency where they become part time workers and work for the agency.  Freelancing is a different good option. There are sites all over the net that offer ways for you to discover freelancing jobs.
 
You are able to do freelancing on just about any type of work you are able to think of. There's certainty a free lancing job available in every area. You simply need to know where to go to find the info for it. There are a lot of ways to go about owning a business. You just need to discover what suits your taste and your budget more.
 
For a business owner the 1st choice you'd have is to be the sole owner. You are able to choose to have an online business in any field of your choice likewise. This means that you control everything through the net from a site controlled by your home computer. Making income is hard in this tough economy today and having just one form of revenue isn't getting individuals out of debt.
 
Working on the net to make income in any sort of field you want is always a beneficial choice because the net will always be there. Just remember that you get out what you put into it. If you dont put that much effort in it then you wont see the return on your investment and time.

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Whatever you do, do quick

Whatever you do, do quick. Don't ever hold back or be ashamed of who you are. Don't be afraid to fail. A lot of people you look up to today failed several times. If they had given up yesterday you won't look up to them today. Don't allow anyone define you. Define yourself by opening up to your creativity. Remember, Rome was not built in a day.

If you don't try new things, you will not know new things. Its not all about knowledge, but putting that knowledge you have got to work. It all depends on you to take your destiny to the next level. Stop aspiring, start inspiring. Leave your comfort zone today. Do that which makes you happy and solve people's problems.

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DONT SPEAK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEM. SPEAK TO YOUR PROBLEM

Ships dont sink because of the water around them. They sink because of the water that gets in them. Dont let whats happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.

We all have challenges but what differentiate us is, while some keep complaining about their problems others speak to the problem. Do you know the more you talk about a problem the more life you give to that problem? Our tongue is so powerful that you become the product of what you say.

There is this lady I knew way back in the university. She had this funny intonation (igbotic accent). She never allowed that challenge to deter her from getting what she wanted. Whenever there was an opportunity to talk this lady comes out first. Her goal was to build that self-confidence without paying attention to the reaction of people. She continued this until we became used to the way she talks. Imagine if she had refused to express herself back then, she would absolutely be drowned in low self-esteem today.
Listen to me, no problem can weigh you down without your permission. Without your approval it cannot be approved. A lot of people are not successful today not because of funds but because of lack of believe. You have to believe in yourself first. Be mindful of what you do or say. Mindfulness embroils paying attention, on purpose, without judgment. Using this approach, you evaluate yourself without judgment, knowing that self-recrimination is not the solution to your problem. On the contrary, according to research, when you judge yourself harshly, you're more likely to compound your problem by worrying. And worrying cannot solve that problem rather it deteriorates it.

Stop judging. Your attention instead should be focused on what that problem is telling you and how that problem can turn around to help you. Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this?" This will help you determine what steps to take next.

Be kind to yourself. You're human. Criticizing yourself, isolating yourself or letting your worries get the best of you won't help you reach your goals. These behaviours only show that you're in need of a little self-compassion. When you start to condemn yourself, challenge your thoughts by asking, "Is what I'm telling myself right now 100 percent true?
Change how you look at your problem. You certainly don't have to love your problem, but you can turn your negative thoughts into more positive ones. You might tell yourself, "This is a test to help me know if my behaviour changes are working for me." Or, "This problem is just a small part of me. It doesn't include my strong passion and desire for my job, my love for my family and friends, my talents and strengths." Here's one more: "The problem is only a passing phase. It doesnt change your self-worth.
It might even help you to write "What can I learn from this?" on a piece of paper and hang it where you can see it every time. Then bravely step forward  and hold your head high, no matter what the problem is.

Conclusion
When you notice yourself making judgments, jot them down and then ask yourself, "What can I learn from this?"
When you face a setback, think before you criticize yourself. What would you say to a friend in a similar position? Now try using that language for yourself.
If feelings of dread start to creep in as you get ready to step on, take a moment to stop and think about the bigger picture of what you're learning when you talk to your problem.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor
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Quit waiting for people to approve you. Approve yourself. 

You have better relationships when you start validating yourself.

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Garbage in Garbage out. Bad parenting the major cause of Nigeria problems.

It is very good to be a career mum, no disputing that fact as we are aware of the present state of Nigeria economy. It might be difficult for just one person to shoulder all that responsibilities. Just yesterday on my way to church, I saw three boys on uniform obviously they were on their way to school. In their hand was a mobile stereo speaker playing music out loud while walking down a busy road with unbuttoned uniform, sagged trousers and a comb on their hair. What??? Are these Nigeria future leaders? Garbage-In-Garbage-Out.  Proverbs 22:6 Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. The result of various actions of our parents towards their children ultimately become the product of the society we live in. For us to save our society, parents/guardians need to take their responsibility which in this case is parenting VERY serious.

Parenting children demands ongoing efforts to protect, teach, encourage and set behavioural limits. Parenting can be very challenging and even frustrating. Some parents give in to the frustration and resort to abusive parenting tactic. I was telling someone the other day that we all as parents really need wisdom to direct our kids the right way as we are not perfect either. You cant imagine the suffering some people go through everyday just to feed. You see an old woman who is supposed to be reaping the fruit of her labour hawking on the street selling peanuts just to put food in her stomach. Will you blame it on the country? Not really. How can you give birth to 10 children when you hardly have enough to feed on? How will you survive?
The truth is, Nigeria is like a baby in a bad hand. Nigeria is a good country simply in bad hands. And this majorly is as a result of bad parenting. I met a shoe repairer the other day who bragged about having 8 kids and still planning to make them 12. I asked him "oga, how you go train them?" Can you guess his response...? He said, he gives them out to people who need but dont have. I was so disappointed. I went to primary school in this country at a time when If your parent ever told you your teacher complained about you, you would feel like running away. These days, the teachers ask for bribe and the Nigerian parents go to schools and beat up teachers.  Something has gone awfully wrong. Quality education is now a matter of money and position. In fact, it now seems like if you dont have a lot of money, your children cannot make it in life.

What am I trying to say? We should bring up our kids the right way because they are the future of this great country. We all need to work together to make Nigeria work again by teaching our children to be responsible. If there are no jobs teach them to create one. you dont need to blame the country for your misfortune. some parents are even too busy to interact with their children and supervise their activities; they rarely intervene or become involved in a child's life, failing to provide guidance. This brings me to the 4 styles of parenting: Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive, not involved. All these will be discussed in my book soon.

In summary, lets aim to control our children's behaviour through continuous direction. But as parents let us also maintain high behavioural expectations. Let us be sensitive to our child's point of view and temperament, lets have that patient to explain why certain rules are important rather than citing our authority as the reason why children should obey. By giving in-depth explanation, we will typically produce independent, confident children who are well-adjusted, creative and cooperative. And this we really need to take our country away from bad hands.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor
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Be PRODUCTIVE

ME 3YEARS AGO

Telemundo 💯
Zeeworld💯
Yoruba movie💯
Bad Energy💯
Reading❌
Writing❌
Research❌
Productivity ❌
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ME NOW😍
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Productivity💯💯💯
Result💯/💯👍🏽

What task are you spending the most of your time on? Be in competition with yourself. Always try to beat the person you were the day before. Work every single day to be a highly productive individual.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor

PASSION BEFORE PROFIT. Be ambitious NOT desperate

From: Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor It is no news too many people these days are feeling lost, an have that feeling something is missing in their life. They feel like they want to make a more important difference in the world, but don't know where to begin. Alot of us walk through our lives, feeling numb and desperate for a deeper connection but don't know how to get it. So many people are searching for their passion and purpose in life, but suffer tremendous inner turmoil while they do it. They continue to work at a job that they hate and continue down a path that doesn't make them happy. Unfortunately, we are so focused on the careers that we dislike because of the profit, that our passions is getting pushed aside and forgotten about. Are You Doing What You Love? Here are some signs that you aren't doing what you love in life. You always put profit first, before your passion. You focus too much on your failures and put yourself down. You aren’t enjoying yourself and not living a fulfilling life. You aren’t happy with your life’s choices. You’re too afraid to take risks. You don’t wake up excited about your life. If any of these signs resonate with you, then it means that you aren't living a passion-filled life. Fortunately, I’ve compiled a straight to the point guide that will show you how to follow your passion before profit and finally do the work that you love to do. Let me introduce you to... PASSION BEFORE PROFIT BE Ambitious NOT Desperate Here's exactly what you'll get inside the course:
 
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HOW DO YOU KNOW IF A PERSON LOVES YOU?

This is a personal question. Everyone have their one unique definition of love. Mine centers alot on Communication. Some might see communication as choking. Not just the physical kind or the hearts and flowers and candy kind. Not the I love you as long as you remain good type of love. It takes time to know if someone really loves you, not forever though but not in weeks or even few months either. Its takes time. It’s not about just saying it but acting it too. It’s not just having the ability to say it but also showing what you really feel. Love is freedom. It  is not judgmental, or controlling. Love is clear water the person does not have any hidden agenda. Love is acceptance on all levels. You don’t have to lose weight or dress a certain way in order to be loved. You choose to lose weight because you want to please yourself and the person you love.

Communication is sine qua non to love. My opinion though. A lot of marriages crumble today because of lack of communication and third party interference. This is particularly true in the country where I come from. Couples choose what they discuss with their spouse so they won't be labeled an "immoral spouse". Most marriages fail not because of money or infidelity, it’s the inability or being afraid to say what you truly feel and fearing the person will abandon you or not think of you the same.
Apart from communication which I see as key, when someone really loves you, their feelings for you will never change no matter how many other people they meet. True love comes naturally.
It is not all about " I love you", you can tell by the way they treat you.
When someone really loves you, time or distance will not be a barrier. They will always find a way to be with you.

When someone really loves you, they will accept your flaws and appreciate your thoughts. Even your mistakes will never change their feelings. Although the mind  gets angry but the heart still cares.
When someone really loves you, you can never be an option to them
When someone really loves you, they make you see and think of love as something sweet. They don't make you think love is hard and painful.
When someone really loves you, they would still find one reason to stay even if there was million reasons to leave.
When someone really loves you, they don't make you fight for their attention constantly.
When someone really loves you, they will make you feel safe, comfortable and free to be yourself.
When someone really loves you, they will protect you and will not want to lose you.
When someone really loves you, they will do real efforts to be with you. Action they say speaks louder than words.
When someone really loves you, they see the imperfect you, see what a mess you can be, how hard you're to handle, but still wants you.
When someone really loves you, they will sometimes make you mad but most times make you happy.
When someone really loves you, your joy is their joy. They will be happy in your happiness.
When someone really loves you, they will be more excited than you on your special day especially on your birthday.
When someone really loves, they will always be there for you.
Most importantly,True love must be mutual to be true!
A big thank you to my hubby for this inspiration. For in him I see all these virtues of true love. One of the rare gems who are not so particular about the out ward beauty of a woman but the inward beauty. May our love continue to blossom Ifunanyam. You are indeed one of a kind.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor

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ONLINE WORK IDEAS FOR STAY AT HOME MOM

ONLINE WORK IDEAS FOR STAY AT HOME MOM

The unemployment rate in Nigeria is quite frightening, and the rate is increasing by the day. Since there are no jobs out there the best you can do for your self is create one and probably expand to employ more people to work with you. Thus, you are contributing your own quota to the development of the country.
Let me tell you a very short story on how I started my businesses. I started job hunting right from my NYSC service years. I applied and attended more than a few job interviews but non clicked until I got one marketing job from an insurance company. The job was commission based. Nobody cared about your transportation fees and other miscellaneous. I had to quit the job. I continued my job search. Sequel to my numerous CV submissions, i got responses from some companies and was scheduled for interview(s) but most of the interviews are always on a week day and almost same time I pick my kids up from school. Whenever I asked for a reschedule, it will not be granted because they feel they are doing me a favour.
Busy moms who want to stay home to raise their children, but also want to contribute to the family income, have many choices for building a flexible home-based career. I am talking from experience. If you're a mom wanting to work at home, then think through these listed internet-based home business ideas.

Online Service
The amount of services you can offer from your own home is limitless. Evaluate your personal and professional talents and interests to find out if any can be turned into a service that you can provide virtually. Some service ideas include writing, editing, and proofreading, graphic design and more. You can even take duties you did while working for a company and turn it into a home business. If you were a marketer, you can create advert for companies and get paid.

Sell Physical Products Online
I have an online business where I sell everything fashion both at wholesale and retail prices. If you ever had the dream of opening a retail store, that doesn't have to be put on hold because you're a stay-at-home mom. The internet has made it possible to sell products from any location, including your house. You can sell products you make, or buy wholesale items for resale. Getting your store online is easier and more affordable than ever. Building an e-commerce website doesn't require a great deal of expense or coding knowledge anymore. I can provide you with such service for little fee.

Sell Informational Products Online
Every day millions of people go online to find information. In many cases, they're willing to pay for it. You can tap into this by creating information products and selling them online.
Information products come in many methods. You can create an e-book and sell it online. If you're interested in book publishing but aren't sure about writing, you can hire a ghost-writer (ardarrhinspiring@gmail.com) Selling eBooks, in particular, is ideal for the busy mom, because purchase and delivery can be done automatically, saving you the hassle of shipping.

Start a Niche Blog
A blog is a fun and great way to make money from a topic you know and love. This is especially true if many others know and love it as well. While you offer the information for free, there are many options for making money, including Google AdSense and other ad feed programs, that will place ads on your site. If you use them, you can get paid when people click on the ads.
Other money-making options include affiliate products, selling ad space, or selling your own products. The trick to success in  blogging is building traffic through internet marketing. The more targeted traffic you get to your site, the more likely you'll make money.

Market Affiliate products and Services

Marketing affiliate products

 and services is basically getting paid to make referrals to other business. One great aspect of affiliate marketing is that you don't have to sell or deliver products. When your link is used to make a purchase, you can earn a commission or flat rate from the referral.

Think, find, create that which you love doing and turn it into another stream of income. You can always contact me if you need a coach to guide you through.

Adanne Chukwudi Udejiofor
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START BEFORE YOU FEEL READY

It is a good thing to plan, no doubt about that. It is also a good thing to learn, attend mind blowing seminars and training. But of what use are all these plannings and learnings without practice? When will you come out of your shell? When do you think you are ready to take the big plunge? Remember, the people living a passionate life started even though they were scared. They are not aware of what the future held, but they did it anyway damning the consequences and fear of the unknown. Stop hiding under the umbrella of the popular maxim – “he who fails to plan, plan to fail” will you plan forever? Stop planning and start doing.
Just for a moment, think about the kid in the candy store. The child doesn’t think about what the flavours might taste like, if it will be bitter or sweet he just dives in. Adult life is no different, you don’t have to plan all your life getting ready else you will never get started. You feel like something is not right in your life, but the next step alludes you. You are so scared of making mistakes, you want it all to be perfect. You see and admire people living a passionate life, but you don’t know where to start.
I found myself in this exact situation not too long ago. I admired people living a passionate life and all I could do then was ask them questions and never get anything done. I realized i keep procrastinating because i felt i cannot achieve that which i so much desire. Until i took that bold step. Admiring and running after successful people did not help me. You are the only one holding you back.
In 2017, I decided It was time for the next chapter in my life. I knew I could add value to the world, but I doubted myself. Let your thinking come and go. Let life dance through you. See what happens as you grip existence more lightly.

Keys to Living a Passionate Life
Truth
Don’t lie to yourself. Remember, you’re diving into something new. Study your expectations. You will make mistakes. You will feel overwhelmed, unsure and afraid. You won’t know the next step to take. You’ll feel like you’re jumping out of an airplane without a parachute. This is what it’s like to be human. Those thoughts and feelings are to be expected. Be reminded that you are not your feelings or thoughts. You don’t have to change your thoughts. You don’t have to fix your emotions. Let it all be.
Passion
What is your passion? Again, like a kid in a candy store, look at finding your passion as an adventure. There are lots of flavours available. The only way to discover what you like is to start tasting the flavours. this is even more important If you’re fresh out of the university, because you have no idea what to expect from life after graduation. You can’t make predictions either, because you have no basis for those predictions. In fact, none of us can predict the future. All you can do is follow that which makes you happy. You don’t have to try so hard. Do your best with what you have. That’s enough. Don’t be scared of making mistakes. It is a part of this pathway. In fact, it’s what makes life full of flavour.
Resistance
Learn to deal with resistance. Resistance is simply thinking we take seriously. When I write a book, I want it to be faultless. But, fortunately, I am aware I can only do my best and leave the rest. I just aim for a book that is good enough. By doing this, I let myself enjoy what I do. I don’t force myself to do what I can’t do. Instead of wasting energy on worrying and having self-doubt, letting go gives me access to an incredible amount of energy that helps me focus on how I can help. Don’t misinterpret me, I’m human, after all I still worry.  The difference is that I don’t take my worrisome thoughts too seriously. Thoughts like-What if I fail? What if I’m not good enough? So what?  I let them be and I move forward.
4. Enjoyment
Don’t live your life in sadness, depression and fear. You have the ability to enjoy each moment as it comes. I’m not talking about you eliminating fear, sadness, anxiety, depression and even grief. You can even enjoy those “low” states if they are seen as Indicators of your thinking at that moment. Enjoyment is about living with lightness; it is about being present in this very moment. It is not in the future. It is here I can enjoy the ordinary existence of being human.

5. Money
If you’re reading this, you probably want to get paid to do what you love. To achieve this, you have to find the connection between what you love to do, what you are good at and what people are willing to pay for. In order words, you need to create value. It can feel overwhelming. But the first step is to start.
You start with what you have, where you are, and you do your best. That’s it.

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UNDERSTAND THE NEED FOR CHANGE AND WORK TOWARDS ACHIEVING IT

You have to be opened to Change and growth for it to actually happen. It is impossible for the floods of innovation and creativity to move into our very being if we are not ready for it by shutting off every exit point for change. if the seedbed for change is not present, change can not happen. In psychology, our life has to undergo different developmental stages to achieve full maturity. However, there are instances where a person may get hooked at a certain stage, unwilling to progress to the next stage. these disorders are called psychological fixations. It is surprising to see fully grown-up adults who are still so much comfortable at the oral stage of their life. There are mothers who find it difficult to let go of the image of their child as a kid and thus stunt the growth of their child being. There are also grown up adults who find it difficult to let go of their umbilical cord and still manifest strong dependency on their parents. Unless these individuals recognise their need for change and maturity, they will remain in that same stage and will never be able to move to the higher stages of life.
For positive change to take place, the first demand is to realize that there is a need for change. This realization may come to a person as a result of objective self-assessment or evaluation of the different areas of his/her own life. Also, sometimes this realization is as a result of good advice based on another person observation that there is a need for a change in a person’s life. We can also have this realization by allowing ourselves to make a paradigm shift. If we make effort to see things from a different viewpoint, we may be able to see the dark and grey areas of our life, and we may be enthused to change them. This realization will birth the beginning of our growth and advancement and without doubt the beginning of maturity and improvement.
There are many challenges we have to overcome to achieve a significant change in our life. First, there is the inertia—the force which drags us to stay in our existing situation and to avoid the prospect of change. This force is powerful and it is akin to the force of gravity. To get out of this inertia we need another sizeable amount of force. Second, there is the inner struggle such as lack of self-confidence, emotional baggage and our mental programs of fear and phobias.
These inner forces are very strong emotional and mental habits which thwarts us from opening ourselves to the essential changes in our life. To conquer these challenges in our growth, we need to take step to alter our negative subconscious programs. Let me give you a good case in point: many among us fear to speak in front of a crowd. I used to be that way. There was this friend of mine who is very eloquent by nature, yet whenever he is asked to speak in front of a crowd, she would start stammering and shaking. I asked her why she is always naively tongue-tied every time she is asked to speak in front of an anonymous crowd. Her answer is that she always hears an inner voice that says she will be embarrassed if she makes mistake. The prospect of embarrassment is holding her back from making progress in her rhetorical skill.
This inner program, which was perhaps instilled into her subconscious mind, early on in her life, has been so strong and capable of stopping her from harnessing her eloquent skill. It is so powerful enough that she is hampered from achieving something significant using her God-given talent for public speaking. she could overcome this hurdle by developing a strong desire to debunk the old program in her subconscious mind and replacing it with a confident and self-assured belief in her very own self.
We can become mindful of these undesirable mental programs by listening to our self-talk. You may be pondering what self-talk is. It is not the kind of talk psychotic people do—talking to their very own selves. Self-talk is the process of talking to oneself when one is alone. This talk may not be expressed loudly. It is an inner conversation between our subconscious mind and the conscious mind. In the case of the above-mentioned example, the lady has the natural flair for public speaking. Yet, there is an inner voice that tells her that she is not a good speaker. Though her conscious mind recognizes that she got the talent for public speaking, her subconscious mind argues with her conscious mind that she is not a good speaker. So every time she is about to mount on the platform and give a speech, she would get involved in a self-talk in which her subconscious mind would argue that she is truly not a good speaker. This undesirable subconscious program may be so debilitating that many among us will time and again shy away from success because of the instigation of these deleterious programs.
So to set straight these negative programs and lay the ground for change, we need to prepare our inner self by being mindful of these negative inner programs and slowly changing these negative programs with the opposite positive programs. Consciousness of these negative programs can produce an inner desire for change, and the formation of this inner desire for change can be the needed push that can poke a person towards change

WHAT EVENT(S) LED TO YOUR DISCOVERY???

After my NYSC service. I combed Ado-Ekiti, Abuja and Lagos in search of good graduate trainee job but got nothing. I was called for job interviews but was never called back to resume. So, at that point I gave upon job search. I just kept studying and I’ve never stopped. That was in 2013. I couldn’t comprehend what was happening. I was doing the right things but I didn’t know what I was doing. I wasn’t pleased with the fact I had to spend the little money I had on transportation just to attend interviews and at the end I will not be accepted. I wanted to know why. According to my understanding, what was happening to me shouldn’t have happened. I had gone to school; infact I am a graduate of Mass Communication from a reputable university but I had no work experience. I realized that I needed to fix a lot of loopholes and gaps in other to fit in. That was what led me to where I am today. I started studying the laws of the universe and paradigms. If you could give advice to those who are still searching for their purpose in life, what would it be? I would tell them to do what I did. I’ve always had a coach or a mentor and it was always a person who had accomplished what I wanted to accomplish. You don’t necessarily need to meet the person directly, you can read their books, blogs and even follow them on social media. I still remember vividly one evening I was clouded by my thoughts, asking rhetorical questions like “What’s the real secret behind everything?” I didn’t realize my husband was watching me. He just looked at me and said, “You should find out what you love to do and then dedicate your life to it. This was in the year 2019. The problem with most people is they never figured that out.” I got really excited because I knew what I wanted to do; I have always loved expressing myself via writing, why not convert my passion into profit? I made up my mind that’s what I would do. I ultimately ended up as a freelance content creator that I am today, I also have an online store MNAC World where we sell everything fashion. Then I got the benefit of working with reputable individuals and companies too as a freelance writer. Here is a link to some of our publications on amazon. I’ve always had incredible coaches. And I always did exactly what they told me whether I agreed with it or not. I would do it until I discover they are mendacious or it wouldn’t work, but they never lied and it always worked. I realized that our paradigms are what confuses us sometimes. Our paradigms control our judgement; they colour our belief. If you’re getting advice from someone who has demonstrated, by results, that they’ve done what you want to do, even though the advice may seem illogical to you, you’ll probably get to where you want to go. It is very imperative for people to study a little bit every day. It should become a habit, like bathing. Eating and brushing your teeth. Study the mind, the laws of the universe and paradigms. There’s enough information on those subjects to keep a person studying forever. I’ve been doing that and I’ll continue to do it. The rewards have been nothing short of amazing.

MY BELOVETH MOTHER

SHE CALLED ME ABEEBEM; HER NAME WAS EGO ARMY- MY BELOVETH MOTHER Childhood is a time of happy innocence, with so much activity, warmth from your family, and fun and curiosity at all you're learning and experiencing. Yes, my childhood included many of these things: an adoring family, fun activities, sports, arts, crafts, vacations, church, school, friends, birthday parties, mother-daughter gist even though I was barely 9years old. But when my mum died, my world was crushed. It no longer mattered to me how good my life had been. My experience taught me God did not love me. The loss I felt screamed in my ear that God was not good. And the pain I felt in my heart told me things would never, ever be good again. I tried as much as I could to reconcile a good and loving God with the death of my mum. Deep down I wanted to trust and believe that God was loving and all this was just a farce to test my faith. That my mum was somewhere on earth or in heaven, and not buried in the ground. I wanted to believe more than anything, its 23years now and no sign of my mum. Just like yesterday. Within me i resolved that no one would see me cry. If everything else shattered around me, I would remain stable. But I couldnt. My anger was so overwhelming; I could not manage it. I was furious at everyone. God. Why didnt He stop this from happening? My family. Why wasnt I informed about what was happening? My friends. Why do they all have complete families when mine was no more? Didnt they know how lucky they were to still have a mum? Myself. I should have done something to help. I began doing the things my mum used to do like making sure my kid brother was okay. That he had eaten dinner, done his homework. I did laundry. I cleaned. I did all I could to be calm amidst the chaos churning all around me, and within my own soul. I grew more and more bitter. Hmmm! What nine-year-old has to endure these things? Why is my life so different from those around me? Why did this have to happen to me? Will it ever be well? Will I live the rest of my life like this? Will I ever feel happiness again? After my mums death, I concluded that either God wasnt real or He doesnt love me. Since I prayed for my mum to live, and she died. Months turned to decades as I sat in this place of anger, pain, and heart break. And then something unforeseen happened. Being comforted of Gods love, His mercy, His goodness it changed my life. His Gracious provision, His bringing back what I lost, His mending my broken heart, these are all evidences that He is who He says He is Ekwueme. That He can do what He has promised. Hes so much greater than our thoughts. Hes so much deeper than our mouths can say. He loves in such a way that no other love can come close. He blesses even more than we can ask. Hes a restorer of the broken. youre still so young and you experienced a great loss with so much life ahead of you. You often wonder how you can make it through the rest of your life without the parent who is no longer here. On the outside, you are calm. You keep a smile and hold your head up high. You meet new people and want to tell them your story, maybe they will understand. Every day is a good day until a memory strikes you like it did to me today. You could be having a normal day until something triggers your memory. It could be a song. It could be a picture. It could be a moment. You close your eyes, take a deep breath, and remember the memory. Because that is all you have now, memories. Sometimes, tears roll down your face. And then those tiny tears can turn into a few minutes of sobbing. You wonder if it will ever get easier. Because you heard that it does get easier. It wont be so sad. It wont be so bad. It gets better. Someday People have told you that the memories wont always make you feel so sad. One day, it will make you smile instead of cry. Thus far, you still experience the heartbreak and the daily reminder that your parent is no longer here on Earth. And it just hits you gbam! it could be you may want to share some wonderful news like youre pregnant, you bought a house or you just put to bed. But you cant. You feel sadness because they arent here to see it, talk about it and to live it with you. This pained me even more NO ONE walk across the graduation stage with me or to hold their grandbabies. You try as much as you can to live your best life, because people keep telling you that is what they would want. but this is so hard. When youre young and lose a parent, its a loss like no other. Its not like losing a grandparent that lived a long and beautiful life. Its an unfair loss. Its a loss that leaves you doubting life, doubting things that you could have, should have, should have done. I could have helped. You now, unfortunately, are a member of an unspoken club. No one to pour out your heart to except God Almighty. It never gets easier. It may be one year; it may be ten years; it can be twenty years. Its still hard. It is perfectly alright, to just cry. You can still grieve; it doesnt have to be a fresh loss; you can grieve for as long as you want. That leaves me with one last thought, you out there who loss a parent at very tender age, Its been almost twenty-three years for me and I am still grieving. Im not crying every day, but I am still grieving in my own way. And thats okay. It doesnt make me weak. It makes me human I hope you find something that repairs that broken piece. So Im closing this letter with an advice, love your parents and take care of them while you can. For you will know their value when you see their empty chair. They are irreplaceable.